Ok ladies, I thought it was time for an entire blog dedicated to Bridezilla’s. But not in the way you may be thinking! I’ve noticed a trend in hearing brides say that they “don’t want to be Bridezillas but…” followed by a perfectly logical and normal request! So I wanted to write a blog for you that lays out things that do NOT make you a Bridezilla at all, and empower you to ask for the things you want on your wedding day!
1. You are NOT a Bridezilla for asking your wedding vendors questions
Wondering what is included in your wedding photography contract or asking your wedding venue questions about the space does not make you a Bridezilla. It’s completely normal and encouraged to ask your wedding vendors questions so that all parties have clear expectations!
Now this does not mean that you should try to dupe any vendors by asking for more hours than you paid for, breaking rules in the contract that you signed, or asking them to bend their policies for you. But looking for clear guidance on what your package offers or what you can expect is 100% okay!
2. You are NOT a Bridezilla for having a dress code
Is your mom wanting to wear bright red when you have a blush color palette? Or is your sister trying to sneak in a white dress during the rehearsal dinner? Look, color and dress codes don’t bother some people. However, this is YOUR wedding! Do you want a dress code? If the answer is yes, it’s ok to have one! You’re not out of line for wanting certain bridesmaid dresses or requesting your family or guests to wear certain colors.
Where the line would blur into “Bridezilla” would be if you are asking people to change their appearance for your wedding day. I’m sure we’ve all heard the horror stories of brides asking their Bridesmaids to lose weight before the wedding day or make them get their hair colored to their liking. Let’s not do that! But weddings often come with dress codes and you’re not a Bridezilla for asking people to follow one.
3. You are NOT a Bridezilla for doing your day your way
Are people giving you a hard time because you want to do a destination wedding, you are opting for a private ceremony, or asking to have a child free wedding? Choosing to enjoy and celebrate your wedding day in the way that you and your significant other see fit is completely encouraged by any wedding professional and will never make you a Bridezilla!
Please do not let anyone make you feel bad about your decisions for your wedding day or make you feel guilty as a “Bridezilla”. Where it could veer into that territory is if you demand things out of others, such as attending a destination wedding if they can’t afford it. Again though, I truly do not think that any of you are doing those things, so you are not a Bridezilla for wanting your day to be the way you envision it!
So there you have it! Those are a few ways that I often hear brides fear that they are being Bridezillas and it’s just not true. Having boundaries, expectations, and opinions on how you’d like your day to look are normal and healthy ways to act as just a plain bride. No “Zilla” needed!
-Liz
