Top tips for writing your personal vows

November 23, 2021

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Hi guys, 

Today we are talking about writing personal vows! I’m going to give you my top tips for writing them, as well as some alternatives to have a more intimate moment if writing personal vows isn’t for you! And remember, you don’t have to read these vows in front of your guests at your ceremony if you don’t want to. You can always read them to each other privately before or after the ceremony. Let’s dive into it!

1. Be yourself

Ok ok, I know this may sound cheesy but it’s true! If you are choosing to write personal vows on your wedding day, you want them to sound like you. Not a version of you that you think you need to be. If you guys are not naturally a super romantic couple and instead love to crack jokes, make your vows silly! There is no right or wrong way to write personal vows. You don’t have to force yourself to be gushy, funny, poetic, etc. You just need to be you.

2. Don’t rush it

I would suggest writing your vows over the course of a few weeks and not the day of your wedding. Jot things down over time! Maybe you look over at your partner one night while they’re cooking food and think how lucky you are. Jot that feeling down in a notebook! If you guys go on a vacation together, write down how excited you are to do this together the rest of your lives. Take note of the feelings that arise over time that make you feel extra connected to your partner and excited to be married. Then a few weeks before the wedding, start connecting those notes together to create your vows.

3. Get inspired

If you’re having a hard time wrapping up your vows or have writer’s block, get inspired with media. Take a lyric from “your song” and add it into your vows! Quote your favorite movie you watch together or take a line from a book that you love. It’s ok to add in things to your vows that help you describe how you feel. 


Bonus: If writing vows just isn’t for you 

If writing your own vows isn’t something you want to do but you still want to have an intimate moment, I have a few suggestions for you! 

-Write a letter and exchange it before the ceremony 

-Have a first look where you can see each other and talk before the ceremony 

-After the ceremony, head off somewhere secluded to talk about how you thought the ceremony went 

-Exchange a gift before or after the ceremony that is meaningful to you 

There you have it guys! Vows don’t have to be complicated. They can be as simple as promising to always be by your partner’s side or to never watch your show together without them. Whatever you write, your partner is sure to love! As always, feel free to reach out to me if you have any questions. 


Your future family heirlooms await.