Hey, I’m Liz!
The most important part of what I do is telling your love story on your special day. I don’t just show up to your ceremony. I want to know the you beyond the camera so the photos I deliver are keepsakes that’ll be with you for decades. Your love story is the best inspiration for photos that last for decades.
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It’s my first installment of #livingyourworth and I have so many emotions. I’m excited to share how I’m living my best life but I’m also nervous. What if no one cares how I’m living my best life? What if I have bad days or weeks or months where I get down on myself and I just sit around in pajamas and don’t live my best life?
But you know what…..we all fail. We all start something new and it’s exciting and scary but we do it anyways. We’ll have good days and we’ll have bad days. I’m not writing this blog to boast about all I’m doing in my life or to try and deceive anyone into thinking I have it all together because Lord knows I don’t. This blog is a way for me to keep myself accountable. A place to write out my triumphs and my struggles. A place for you, my dear readers, to post your triumphs and struggles so that we can help each other to live each day to the fullest. So let’s get started…
Prepare yourself because we’re about to get deep.
This whole #livingyourworth idea came about one night, sitting in bed after a recent breakup. I was taking on too many jobs to stay busy. I was running my own business, a passion I love more than anything, and honestly getting a little burned out. I was going out with friends or alone, just to be out of my apartment doing anything other than sitting in bed, in my pajamas, eating ice cream and watching cheesy Hallmark movies. I was contemplating life and all the things I wanted to do. I have so many plans that I’ve put off for one reason or another. I’m also really bad about taking on more than I should. That is clearly evident if you just take one look at my calendar. Here’s my May calendar for quick reference:
Don’t mind me…just over here scheduling and color coding every single part of my life. I’m extremely type A and if you look at my enneagram (more on that in another blog) you’ll see why. I don’t like leaving things to chance so I schedule everything so I never forget anything. This is also one small way I try and control my life as it spins ever increasingly out of control. The calendar usually stresses people out but it makes me feel calm and like I have my life together even though I definitely do not. This calendar is actually a lot more simple than my college days calendar. I had 4 classes, 2 jobs, business, RA duties and everything else in my life on that calendar. Now that was intense.
Now that I’ve gotten distracted, let’s get back on track. So what exactly is emptying your plate? Well, let’s think about it in terms of an actual plate. You have your plate of life and the 24 hours in a day because no matter how hard I try to add more hours to the day, it’s just not going to happen. So 24 hours in a day, how do you fill those hours? Well, I’m terrible about taking on way too much. It’s how I avoid things I don’t want to deal with. I know, I know, it’s a really bad habit and I’m working on it. Let me deal in my own time lol. So back to the breakup. I just really don’t want to deal with the emotions of it all and I’m stressed out so what do I do? I throw myself full force into my work, my business, education, and anything else I can get my hands on.
Looking at that list completely written out is causing me serious anxiety. No wonder I needed to start meditating and was falling asleep at the drop of a hat. Can you imagine getting all that done in 24 hours a day?
If you imagined me looking anything other than this…you’d be mistaken.
Now those are just the weekdays. On weekends, I had weddings and sessions. Now I’m not saying all of this to get a pity party or to say that what I do isn’t amazing. I love photography and I love learning and growing my skills through a variety of educational courses. But the truth is, I can’t keep going like that. So I had to let some things go. I let a lot go, and I’m sure I could let more go but for now, this is a great start. Remember, I have a problem with wanting to stay busy so we’re starting small.
Now again, this may seem like a lot and some days it definitely is but I’m learning to let go and it’s honestly been the greatest decision. I’ve learned to step back and think about everything I do and how it makes me feel. If I feel stressed out, burned out or just anxious about it, I know it’s time to let it go. That’s how I felt about editing for one of my photographer friends here in town. I loved the work and had so much fun helping her in her business but it just got to be too much. I was getting overwhelmed and burned out and I knew it was time to let it go. She was incredibly gracious and understanding about everything as well which I really appreciated.
Cutting back on sessions for Main Street has also greatly helped. I love working for them and it’s really easy work. I just go into a business and photograph their building, products, and headshots. I meet so many amazing people in the Clarksville and southern Kentucky area. It’s a great opportunity but I have cut down on the shoots I take. I try to schedule them so I can take off as little or no time at all from my full-time job which has greatly helped in how happy I feel these days.
The biggest thing I’ve learned over the past month is that I can’t do it all. As much as I want to fill my time to avoid what’s going on or just because I love learning and helping others; I can’t do it all and I have to accept that. This has been such a huge thing for me and I definitely know that I fail. Do I always make it to the gym on my scheduled days? No, but I go at least 3 days a week. Do I always get my KJ Business Journey class done the first week that it’s out? Definitely not. This has been the biggest thing for me when it comes to time management. This class is so important to me and the growth of my business and I’m working on making it a larger priority in my life.
While I don’t feel 100% about everything I have on my life plate, I feel good enough about it to keep going as it is for a bit and then reevaluate. That’s the thing about life. As it changes and we evolve and grow we’ll also have to change what is on our life plate. Maybe something else has to take precedence for a little while and that’s okay. As long as you’re getting it done and you feel good, that’s all that matters.
So you guys remember my #dearapril post? Well here’s the update.
Photo by the incredible Christy Hunter of Authentic Photos and Designs
So that’s it. The first installment of living your worth. If you’re still here, congratulations!! Thanks for listening to me ramble as I figure this whole thing out.
Do you fill your life plate too full? How are you #livingyourworth?
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